The Three D’s to Clarity
Decision-making damage control
“No carelessness in your actions. No confusion in your words. No imprecision in your thoughts.” — Marcus Aurelius
Ben has accepted that once he makes a decision, he can’t control the way people respond to it. So he doesn’t care what people think of him. He also realizes that the worst case scenario, as a result of his decision, nine times out of ten, won’t be that bad. Ben then decides to make his decision based on this rationale.
The one time out of ten has now happened to Ben as a result of his decision.
The worst case scenario level is at “pretty bad” and it’s going to be hard to for him to bounce back from this. He now feels overwhelming panic, anxiety, helplessness and regret. Talk about a backfire!
But what did Ben do wrong? He had all the courage it took to make the decision. Doing the “whole Stoic thing”, he sat on Mt. Olympus and took that “view from above”…for exactly one minute…
The right kind of fear
It is freeing to know that the only thing within our control is our actions and emotions. Every decision is backed by emotion, we all know that. Relinquishing fear of the outcome, however, doesn’t mean making mindless decisions based on how we feel in the moment. Feel the fear…
